How to Deal With the Hypocrites (4:88-89)

How to Deal With the Hypocrites

[4:88] Why should you divide yourselves into two groups regarding hypocrites (among you)? GOD is the one who condemned them because of their own behavior. Do you want to guide those who are sent astray by GOD? Whomever GOD sends astray, you can never find a way to guide them.
[4:89] They wish that you disbelieve as they have disbelieved, then you become equal. Do not consider them friends, unless they mobilize along with you in the cause of GOD. If they turn against you, you shall fight them, and you may kill them when you encounter them in war. You shall not accept them as friends, or allies.*
*4:89 The basic rule controlling all fighting is stated in 60:8-9.

[4:90] Exempted are those who join people with whom you have signed a peace treaty, and those who come to you wishing not to fight you, nor fight their relatives. Had GOD willed, He could have permitted them to fight against you. Therefore, if they leave you alone, refrain from fighting you, and offer you peace, then GOD gives you no excuse to fight them.
[4:91] You will find others who wish to make peace with you, and also with their people. However, as soon as war erupts, they fight against you. Unless these people leave you alone, offer you peace, and stop fighting you, you may fight them when you encounter them. Against these, we give you a clear authorization.

Basic Law Regulating Relations With Unbelievers

[60:8] GOD does not enjoin you from befriending those who do not fight you because of religion, and do not evict you from your homes. You may befriend them and be equitable towards them. GOD loves the equitable.
[60:9] GOD enjoins you only from befriending those who fight you because of religion, evict you from your homes, and band together with others to banish you. You shall not befriend them. Those who befriend them are the transgressors.

Consistently in the Quran the messenger refers to verse 60:8 – 9 as to the criteria of the people we should not befriend. As human beings we have the tendency of extending this to a wider audience. We should error on the side of being nice and compassionate, but not to befriend people who are aggressors and wish the believers harm.

Rules of War*

[2:190] You may fight in the cause of GOD against those who attack you, but do not aggress. GOD does not love the aggressors.
*2:190 All fighting is regulated by the basic rule in 60:8-9. Fighting is allowed strictly in self-defense, while aggression and oppression are strongly condemned throughout the Quran.

Do Not Befriend Hypocrites

[3:118] O you who believe, do not befriend outsiders who never cease to wish you harm; they even wish to see you suffer. Hatred flows out of their mouths and what they hide in their chests is far worse. We thus clarify the revelations for you, if you understand.
[3:119] Here you are loving them, while they do not love you, and you believe in all the scripture. When they meet you they say, “We believe,” but as soon as they leave, they bite their fingers out of rage towards you. Say, “Die in your rage.” GOD is fully aware of the innermost thoughts.
[3:120] When anything good comes your way they hurt, and when something bad happens to you they rejoice. If you steadfastly persevere, and maintain righteousness, their schemes will never hurt you. GOD is fully aware of everything they do.

Who we choose to surround ourselves with affects us and them. As submitters we should try our best to be thermostats and affect our environment rather than being thermometers who reflect the environment. Despite this it is naive to think that the people we choose to surround ourselves with will not have a toll on our personality and behavior.

Can Your Actions And Thoughts Influence People You Don’t Know? Prof. Fowler Explains
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kzGUpUk7axA

It is essential as believers that we will be persecuted and if we are steadfast we will be able to use that situation for our growth. If we can trust in God, God will fix the situation.

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You Shall Be Courteous (4:86 – 4:87)

You Shall Be Courteous

[4:86] When greeted with a greeting, you shall respond with a better greeting or at least an equal one. GOD reckons all things.
[4:87] GOD: there is no god except He. He will surely summon you on the Day of Resurrection – the inevitable day. Whose narration is more truthful than GOD’s?

[6:54] When those who believe in our revelations come to you, you shall say, “Salamun `Alaykum (Peace be upon you). Your Lord has decreed that mercy is His attribute. Thus, anyone among you who commits a transgression out of ignorance, and repents thereafter and reforms, then He is Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

By starting the greeting with “peace”, we are priming the situation to a positive atmosphere.

If all people responded to a greeting with an equal or better greeting then this could effectively abolish animosity between many people.

[99:7] Whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it.
[99:8] And whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it.

How to Get People to Like You in Just a Few Seconds
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EXJbzeZ_bUc

 

First Impression Magic! Power, Respect and Authority in Seconds
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wUtFwIXsIZM

Submitters

[41:33] Who can utter better words than one who invites to GOD, works righteousness, and says, “I am one of the submitters”?
[41:34] Not equal is the good response and the bad response. You shall resort to the nicest possible response. Thus, the one who used to be your enemy, may become your best friend.
[41:35] None can attain this except those who steadfastly persevere. None can attain this except those who are extremely fortunate.

We love and hate in the cause of God. If we have a personal issue with someone we need to find reason to make peace with them. If someone is an enemy of God and attacks the believers because of their belief we need to firm with these people, and not extend love and friendship to these people.

Abraham: An Example

[60:4] A good example has been set for you by Abraham and those with him. They said to their people, “We disown you and the idols that you worship besides GOD. We denounce you, and you will see nothing from us except animosity and hatred until you believe in GOD ALONE.”* However, a mistake was committed by Abraham when he said to his father, “I will pray for your forgiveness,** but I possess no power to protect you from GOD.” “Our Lord, we trust in You, and submit to You; to You is the final destiny.

[60:5] “Our Lord, let us not be oppressed by those who disbelieved, and forgive us. You are the Almighty, Most Wise.”

What should people in a community do if they see that people within that community are not greeting one another per this verse?
Lead by example.

[60:6] A good example has been set by them for those who seek GOD and the Last Day. As for those who turn away, GOD is in no need (of them), Most Praiseworthy.
[60:7] GOD may change the animosity between you and them into love. GOD is Omnipotent. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.

Mediating Good Deeds (4:85)

Responsibility

[4:85] Whoever mediates a good deed receives a share of the credit thereof, and whoever mediates an evil work, incurs a share thereof. GOD controls all things.

God is the one who controls the good deeds and allows us to perform them.

[58:11] O you who believe, if you are told, “Please make room,” you shall make room for each other to sit. GOD will then make room for you. If you are asked to get up and move, get up and move. GOD raises those among you who believe, and those who acquire knowledge to higher ranks. GOD is fully Cognizant of everything you do.

John Riordan (“Oskar Schindler of Vietnam War”) saved 105 Vietnamese lives 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DRSTxItf3fE

Mediate a Good Deed 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PT-HBl2TVtI

Rumors (4:83 – 4:84)

Beware of the Devil’s Rumors

[4:83] When a rumor that affects security comes their way, they spread it. Had they referred it to the messenger, and those in charge among them, those who understand these matters would have informed them. If it were not for GOD’s grace towards you, and His mercy, you would have followed the devil, except a few.
[4:84] You shall fight for the cause of GOD; you are responsible only for your own soul, and exhort the believers to do the same. GOD will neutralize the power of those who disbelieve. GOD is much more powerful, and much more effective. 

Gossip vs. Rumor
Gossip: conversation about unimportant subjects, especially people’s private lives
Rumor: unofficial information that may or may not be true
http://www.differencebetween.net/miscellaneous/difference-between-gossip-and-rumor/

Believers Set the Example

[49:11] O you who believe, no people shall ridicule other people, for they may be better than they. Nor shall any women ridicule other women, for they may be better than they. Nor shall you mock one another, or make fun of your names. Evil indeed is the reversion to wickedness after attaining faith. Anyone who does not repent after this, these are the transgressors.

Suspicion Is Sinful

[49:12] O you who believe, you shall avoid any suspicion, for even a little bit of suspicion is sinful. You shall not spy on one another, nor shall you backbite one another; this is as abominable as eating the flesh of your dead brother. You certainly abhor this. You shall observe GOD. GOD is Redeemer, Most Merciful.

How to Deal With Rumors and Unproven Accusations

[24:11] A gang among you produced a big lie. Do not think that it was bad for you; instead, it was good for you. Meanwhile, each one of them has earned his share of the guilt. As for the one who initiated the whole incident, he has incurred a terrible retribution.
[24:12] When you heard it, the believing men and the believing women should have had better thoughts about themselves, and should have said, “This is obviously a big lie.”
[24:13] Only if they produced four witnesses (you may believe them). If they fail to produce the witnesses, then they are, according to GOD, liars.
[24:14] If it were not for GOD’s grace towards you, and His mercy in this world and in the Hereafter, you would have suffered a great retribution because of this incident.
[24:15] You fabricated it with your own tongues, and the rest of you repeated it with your mouths without proof. You thought it was simple, when it was, according to GOD, gross.

What to Do

[24:16] When you heard it, you should have said, “We will not repeat this. Glory be to You. This is a gross falsehood.”
[24:17] GOD admonishes you that you shall never do it again, if you are believers.

The Devil Encourages Baseless Accusations

[24:21] O you who believe, do not follow the steps of Satan. Anyone who follows the steps of Satan should know that he advocates evil and vice. If it were not for GOD’s grace towards you, and His mercy, none of you would have been purified. But GOD purifies whomever He wills. GOD is Hearer, Knower.

Redirecting Gossip: Jeff Conway at TEDxYouth@CampHill
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_kVIErLCcrE

If someone asks you about the behavior of a group is that gossiping?

You can talk about your personal experience, but be cautious not to slander or backbite. If we put motivations behind people’s actions then we are making assumptions about their intent and unless they publicly stated their intent we will not know for sure.

People gossip because they want to be the center of attention and that desire stems from ego. To show that they have information that other people want to have.

What is the responsibility of the person who listens to the rumor?

Their duty is to either (1) disregard it, (2) not participate if they can, (3) or correct them in the best possible manner if it is false information (4) remind them not to gossip. It all depends on the situation.

If we hear something inaccurate should we correct that person? 

[66:3] The prophet had trusted some of his wives with a certain statement, then one of them spread it, and GOD let him know about it. He then informed his wife of part of the issue, and disregarded part. She asked him, “Who informed you of this?” He said, “I was informed by the Omniscient, Most Cognizant.”

It depends what is the purpose of correcting the person. In the above example we see that the messenger disregarded part of the issue. This informs me that we don’t need to be a stickler on every point and can pick and choose our battles.

[25:9] Note how they called you all kinds of names, and how this led them astray, never to find their way back.